what fell out of love

To The Man In The Moon- 
How do you fix something when the other person denies that its broke?
May be I am not trying the right way? 
I am so lost that I cant even tell what was right with us. Where the good became this.. almost indifference? He doesn't want to pay attention. I can't find more common ground. When I feel lighter and start to enjoy and relax, he starts getting irritated or bothered. Or tired. And I am not trying to dmsay being tired is the problem, its jist what he says the problem is. Everytime I am asking what's happening and what the issues are he says hes just tired. Whether that is true really depends on what his real answer is. If it really is how he acts and becomes when hes tired or when he just doesn't want to say what the real issues are. Im not sure he doesn't it intentionally. Lying. Deflecting. 
It just sucks the happy, or vibrancy right out of me. Even when I try and ask him what's going on
 He deflects he minimizes what he is feeling or upset about instead of talking to me. 
But I feel how broke we are. 
Trying to get him to snap out of it never works for me. Hes created a shell and I dont want to break through. I am not trying to sound harsh but, my love isnt in question. And I keep showing up ready to try. I just dont feel the same coming from him. I cant even say all talk no action because he still wants action. 🙄 I still feel its the only thing still here. 
I cant. I cant stop feeling the break widening. Its breaking me into smaller and smaller pieces. Confidence shattered. 
Well I dont want to appear distracted when really, I'm giving him my.complete attention evem when I appear to be just typing on my phone. 
That was yesterday. After KPot. We had a good.dinner with Rose, Charles and Vinnie. We also had a good night that I will think of often. We dont have problems in the bedroom.. unless its me not wanting to do it being unable to stop the thoughts in my head. Sigh.  

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