To The Man In The Moon
Dear Dad,

Once again I lack the time and energy to keep up with, well I was going to say the things that are important to me but really its hard to keep up with anything. So this blog that I thought would help me feel more connected to you, has just made me feel guilty for not keeping up with it more. Intentions I suppose. I thought about giving it up but it just I feel like I have so little that I just can’t let it go.

I could write a book with all the stuff I missed in talking with you about over the last year. Liam grows more and more amazing everyday and it kills me to think about you missing out on him, and him missing out on you. Mom just about tears in two just thinking about it. We both do.

No one warned me that it would be like losing you all over again in this new and painful way. Mourning for Liam and the loss of his grandfather.

But enough enough of this.

I know you must be here with us. Keeping watch. I like to imagine you as this light that constantly shines on Liam. And that he can feel the warmth of your smile and your love and that’s why he is such a loving and happy child.

He will be walking any day now.

His laugh and smile make my heart light.

We love him more than words and we miss you just as much.

I don’t always write when I need to. I don’t always have the time. But letting it out into the world makes me feel better somehow. And that’s all I can do

Love you

Sondra

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