Coming in like a Lion

To The Man In The Moon  -
Today I sent an email to the lawyers office that XXXXXXX got. It was as follows.

Dear XXXX and XXXX,

My name is XXXXXXXXX. I am writing in advance of meeting with you following your prior conversation with my husband, XXXXX regarding our divorce. I have not yet had the opportunity to outline my settlement position directly, and I hope this summary will help us use our time efficiently and work toward a structured and fair resolution.

My primary objective is stability for our special‑needs child, XXXXXXX and ensuring appropriate financial and medical security moving forward.

Custody
I am requesting the continuation of sole legal and sole physical custody of our son due to his significant special needs and my role as his primary caregiver. I remain open to reasonable and flexible parenting time by mutual agreement, provided it aligns with his medical, therapeutic, and educational needs and that appropriate advance notice is given, consistent with our practice since the separation.

Child Support
I am requesting child support in the amount of $700 per month, consistent with XXXXXXXXXXX considering limited parenting time and our son’s special needs. Any SSDI derivative benefit paid directly to the child may be credited in accordance with LAW

Spousal Maintenance
Due to my permanent disability, limited earning capacity, and the length of the marriage XXXXXXXXXXXXX
We had previously agreed that XXXXX would maintain Vision and Dental Insurance coverage for me. I recently learned that my dental and vision coverage was canceled in December 2025 without any notice or discussion. I am currently seeking information to obtain replacement coverage and may need to amend the requested maintenance amount once those costs are confirmed. Any agreement involving insurance must include provisions ensuring continuous coverage and appropriate adjustment of maintenance if coverage terminates.

Health, Dental, and Vision Insurance
• Health insurance shall be maintained for our son.
• Dental and vision insurance shall be maintained for our son and for me.
• I am requesting reinstatement of my dental and vision coverage or, if reinstatement is not possible, an appropriate adjustment to spousal maintenance to reflect the added cost.

Marital Residence and Mortgage
I am requesting that the marital residence be awarded to me exclusively, with XXXXX executing a Quitclaim Deed transferring all right, title, and interest within thirty (30) days of entry of the decree.
Regarding the mortgage:
• XXXXXX shall ensure the mortgage remains current.
• I am willing to make the ongoing mortgage payments directly to keep the loan current provided once child support and alimony payments begin.
• If the lender permits assumption, XXXXXX shall cooperate fully with the assumption process.
• If assumption is not possible, XXXXX may retain the mortgage in his name while adding me as an authorized party for payment purposes.
• XXXXX shall not interfere with my ability to make payments or maintain the property.
• Until child support and spousal maintenance payments begin, XXXXXX shall remain responsible for keeping the mortgage current.

Court Costs
Because I am on disability and meet the income criteria, I will need to file the appropriate form requesting that court costs be waived due to financial hardship.

My goal is to reach a fair agreement that prioritizes our child’s stability and allows both parties to move forward with clearly defined responsibilities.

I look forward to discussing these matters further.

Sincerely,
ME

I've heard that this Eclipse is for burning 🔥 through the shadows, the past, the things that are finished. 
I guess that is proving to be true. 
There was a time I wouldnt have been able to even imagine getting to a place like this. Not just that it wouldnt happen but that it wouldnt happen and end like this. 
I didnt get to see all the love my mom and Dad had, in the sense that I only remember you both, married, together for less than 10 years. I saw how she loved you. I saw how much love she carried with her to her end. She gave me so much of you. I hope that I was able to do the same for her. She was magic. The way she weaved all the memories and stories and love together. I cant imagine the pain she went through. God she was amazing. 
I am trying to write out as much as I can to get it out into the open. To really let it all go. Knowing I dont know if I ever will. I loved Dustin very much. I believe that once we could have done anything together. We made the most precious thing in this world together with that love. I haven't gotten to go to therapy and talk about the ending of that life together. I haven't gotten to work through all of the mistakes and lessons. So it seems like an unrealistic goal to be able to let that all go in one albeit beautiful Blood Moon Eclipse. So I am going to try and let go of the things that no longer serve me. I cannot erase the hurt, or the love, I wouldnt want to. I carry a piece of him with me. The best part of him. And I will share that love as if it died. I will honor the parts that were true. Good and bad. I will rage, for the life we lost. I will celebrate, for what was made in love. I'll try to let go of any harm and hate. I will only ask for what is needed to give my son the life and the love he has deserved since he blessed us. I cant make that mean anything to anyone but me and hopefully Liam. 
So this is me letting go of as much as I can. This is me humbling myself to love my son with all my mistakes and my imperfections. I cant make Dustin want to be in his son's life. I cant make him love him more or pay attention, or cherish, or see how much he is losing by not being his best self for his son and humbling himself as well. I cant forgive him, when every turn he takes more from us still. He was my best friend. He was my family. My only family. My love, my husband. Until he wasnt. And I tried. To help, to show, to push, to build up, love, to beg, to find help, to love himself. So I will try to let go of the guilt. I have owned my pain and hurt. Begging doesn't serve me. 
Losing myself and beating myself up for all the ways I couldnt get to him. Get through to him. I won't be full of hate. For myself, for him. I am letting go of ignorance. I am owning that this is part of my journey. Part of my road. 
I hope that at least for this piece I can learn and grow. 
We laughed and loved a lot. 

So Man In The Moon,
I am going to try and build my life, build myself, build my love from the ashes. 
I will take deeper breaths. I will try to remember all the things I have learned and I will try and put one foot in front of the other. Because my road doesn't end here, it just begins a different journey. 
Time for a different Era.
Flip the page and let's see where we go from here.
Its not the beginning of my story lol too much would be lost if I started a new story. I am in the appreciate everyday era of my life. I am wiser, and God knows older. Im going to learn to listen, feel, experience, love, and stand strong that my story is quite a messy one. But I still have more...

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